The Guilt Of Leaving.

Every time I feel things get a big more stable and I can start making some plans for MY future, life throws more shit at me and I have to rethink my whole existence.

I realized today I feel incredible guilt, even though I should not. I feel like I set the boat on fire and I only saved myself without looking back at who else was on the boat. I left him who cannot swim. The boat is falling apart around him and he has no idea where to go while I stand on the shore not knowing what to do. For I cannot save the boat, nor can I save him without sacrificing my life. I dare not look at this pathetic scene unfolding in front of me for if our eyes meet my soul might crumble into nothingness.

My soul, my mind, my body, my heart, my existence have to move on. So I turn my back to this sinking boat and all that is left behind. I break as I break others. I break as I leave. The boat and all that was has gone quiet. But my mind has not. I cannot silence my mind. But it is not the sound of defeat. It is not the sound of hopelessness or despair. It is the sound of resilience. It is the sound of screams as I take back what is mine… my thoughts, my emotions, my being, my sense of belonging, my worth, my right to live life, my freedom of choice, my voice! For these were taken from me through abuse.

I am still me. After all these years, I am still me. My mask has come off and I am feeling every emotion and sorrow and pain and laughter and joy and heartache and depression and desperation…. everything I was not allowed to feel I am now feeling! I am alive!! If I can handle the abuse I have suffered in this life time, I can sure as hell deal with my boat sinking. Because what a scene…. even in fire there is beauty. And when it has all sunk to the bottom, that is where it will remain, never to be dug up again. I am worth more than a pile of junk on the ocean floor. I will leave it there to be overcome with weeds and coral and homes for fish and maybe one day I can even look back at the horror of the past years and look at it with different eyes.

 

~ Becca ~

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13 Comments Add yours

  1. I feel you …… nevertheless the life must be lived around all the scars and wounds.

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    1. Rebecca says:

      Exactly. I know I deserve better and I will seize the day 😏

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  2. Singledust says:

    Bec, dont rethink it! just go with it! get into life. I held back for so long. I counted myself unworthy. I judged myself so harshly then when this amazing person came into my life I resisted believing life could be different but better. my words may seem shallow or hollow for I cannot express enough how validating it is to share a life. a journey, a memory in life with someone who wants to with you. you will never know what’s around the river bend unless you get into that boat and go!

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    1. Rebecca says:

      Oh wauw… I so needed to hear that. I do believe I could have a better life. I just need to embrace the ones that love me and leave forever the ones that don’t.

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      1. Singledust says:

        you are so right! I held on to a man I thought was good. he made me into someone I wasn’t. it took another man. an unselfish man who made me love myself before I loved him. I said it before. go with the one who appreciates your value to the world not just to him.

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        1. Rebecca says:

          Exactly. It’s just taking me a while to believe this new man…. I want to see all that he sees when he looks at me. He is convincing me in my worth.

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          1. Singledust says:

            it takes different eyes and heart to see the good we have been suppressing. if he takes the time to listen , he’s real. and don’t tolerate an emotional man. they weigh you down.

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            1. Rebecca says:

              Good advice 😏. Thank you!

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  3. Rob says:

    Well I think you two have summed it all up brilliantly, guess we don’t need this kerosene? Beautifully said Bec, indeed it was

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    1. Rebecca says:

      Thanks 😆. It’s good to vent now and then. Especially among friends that can give great advice 😊

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  4. i wish things were less complex.. but that is life. I hope this will pass too.

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    1. Rebecca says:

      I sure hope so.

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